So who is writing this and what does he know abut being a busy dad/parent?
Hi, I’m Tony Biancotti – dad/ husband/ corporate communication consultant
I work as a corporate consultant and trainer offering advice and teaching leading executives how to improve their communication, presentation, and persuasion.
At this stage of my life ‘though, I am craving getting advice and learning from others about a vital topic – How to be a Better Dad.
My wife Monique and I have two gorgeous children (Yes, of course we are biased – like every parent!) – Orlando (8) and Cleo (5).
As Monique will tell you, I have my strengths as a dad (and husband) – but I also have my struggles:
– I can be too task focused and get grumpy with delays in achieving KPIs (Kid Performance Indicators – e.g. getting ready for school, bringing home lunch boxes and shoes etc.)
– I can get resentful of the restrictions placed on my once free and adventure-filled life
– I can be so focused on working to secure a future for my family – that I am often not always present in enjoying the present (I’m there physically but not mentally).
Do you share any of these “struggles”?
I want to learn (and share) tips from so many of the great dads I see around me. These dads may not be perfect in every way – but they all have certain tips to share.
This topic is important to me and as a former journalist, I enjoy “interviewing” and packaging the life experience and expertise from others.
This morning I chatted to a dad who was dropping off his son at the school my son goes to. The dad (John) like me looks like he started a family later in life – but he is at a stage where has positioned himself in his career so he can work his finance job from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. so he can do drop-offs and pick-ups.
In our “car park chat” we spoke about how he can be more productive in those work hours and be fully-engaged with his son outside of work hours. As you can imagine, I want to learn more from John. He looks like he has “got it together”!
I recently started a project (the Chris Adams Project) where I capture the business wisdom from an American movie and Facebook exec, Chris Adams, who now lives in Brisbane.
Apart from all is business knowledge, one of the things I really admire about Chris is his dedication to his wife Sharon and his son Cooper. I want to learn more from him about work-life balance. He helped bring to life films that won 4 Academy Awards. He is also a children’s author – a project that evolved from his wanting to tell stories to his son. There’s so much on the family side I want to learn from Chris.
My best mate from law school, Terry, became a dad more than 10 years before I did. One of the things I admire most about Terry is his dedication to his family and the way he encourages his kids to pursue their talents and passions. He has been down the parent path before me – and I constantly seek his counsel. I reckon he’ll really be valuable when my kids become teenagers! He’s been through that already.
Anyway, you now know the objective of this blog (Oh no, I’m sounding corporate!). It’s written from a dad’s perspective – but if you are a mum and would like tips for the “Dad” in your life you’re welcome to be part of the project. We might even set up a “sister-site” – busy mum to better mum. I’ll ask my wife to get involved because she is a hard-working super-mum (of course I’m biased again).
Enjoy!
Tony